Wise Women in Heartbreak

Part 3: The Last 7

Brenda Fredericks
7 min readSep 23, 2019
photo by Summer Hokulani Engman

I asked 22 women this question:

How do you heal from heartbreak?

Their answers blew me away. Read Part 1: The First 7 and Part 2: The Second 8 for so much inspiration.

As I’ve been compiling these 22 profound responses, I have had my own heart cracked open, again. Thank god. It’s a windy process that comes in waves and often when I least expect it.

Surrendering to grief is a deeply human experience that shows me the depths of who I am as a woman. When I let it take me, I am left cracked open — and from there, what’s present is love and truth.

The Last 7 Women: Raw & Unedited

16. Karen

66, New York, New York

Prayer. I’d been married for 25 years when I filed for divorce, and even as I did, I prayed for myself and also for him.

Boundaries. I read up on the extensive nature of his addiction and it made me so sad that I couldn’t handle it. So I stopped reading the 7 books I bought about his disease and I created a strong boundary to stop taking care of him. That was hard but I was learning to take care of myself. I was good to him during our divorce and I would have brief phone conversations with him…

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Brenda Fredericks
Brenda Fredericks

Written by Brenda Fredericks

Musings on being a Woman and a Mother on a Spiritual Journey. In service to Truth and Joy. Cohost: Desire as Medicine Podcast. https://www.brendafredericks.com